November 25, 2012
New or expecting Parents
Dear Parents:
Children at a young age learn from their surroundings, connecting gender to what they see. Traditionally it could be their father in the garage fixing the car and their mother in the kitchen preparing dinner. If a child's development consists of gender restricted rules or images their development will be dramatically different say that of a child surrounded by gender equal images. A child seeing their mother in the garage helping their father with fixing the car or seeing their father in the kitchen helping their mother prepare dinner, can have a dramatic change in a child's development. I believe a simple change from traditional gender roles to an equal gender role can benefit development in a child. traditional genders roles can lead to low self-esteem, depression and emotional disconnection while equal gender roles can lead to successful emotional connections, and better confidence in ones self.
traditionally, culture has men and women living by different roles and rules that are gender specific. Men go to work to provide for the family, work around the house and expect dinner on the table at six. Women stay home, clean, take care of the kids and have dinner ready by six. Children at a young age are constantly learning from what they see and hear, they connect what their parents do to how they should do things. Children raised by specific gender guidelines will develop those same rules in adulthood.
in a traditional house hold, young boys see their parents living by specific rules. these rules can be passed down for generations, from father to son, older brother to younger or even the media, and each one gives their ideals of masculinity. Author Micheal Kimmel in "Bros Before Hos" asks college men for their ideals of what it means to be a man, "never show your feelings, never ask for directions, never give up, never give in, be strong, be aggressive, show no fear, show no mercy...(609)" All of the answers he received describe a collection of attitudes and values that together describe what it means to be a man. these rules govern behavior and have a required criteria that help a boy or man to be seen as a tough, strong, traditional figure of masculinity.
Woman are not given a set of rules similar to men's, but they still develop a ideal image of what a woman needs to be in a traditional household. For young girls seeing their mother do specific gender oriented jobs creates a gender image. For example, my sister is almost thirty years old and believes that she needs a boyfriend to live a normal life. She refuses to
do any job that is oriented towards a masculine role, when asking her to help fix fence at the ranch she declines with answers that give her no confidence in herself. She was raised thinking that women cant do jobs that are masculine.
Being raised in a traditional home leads to a difference in adulthood development between genders and disorders. It can have effects on self esteem, disconnection from emotions, and depression. Woman tend to be less confident and dependent on others while men lack the ability to express emotions and or are disconnected from social interaction. Micheal Kimmel says "Boys are more prone to depression, suicidal behavior, and various forms of out-of-control or out-of-touch behaviors than girls are(616)." Its believed that boys suffer more from the traditional rules of the Guy Code(Kimmel) because the code leaves boys disconnected from emotions and prohibited from sharing any form of feelings they have with others.
Still working on more paragraghs, and trying to find new sources after a slight change on my topic.
(new paragragh idea) equal gender roles in a house. the father can go to work and cook dinner or the mother can go to work and still cook dinner....
Monday, November 26, 2012
Sunday, November 18, 2012
Annotated Bibliography
- Kimmel, Michael S. Guyland: The Perilous World Where Boys Become Men. New York:
Harper, 2008. Print.
Micheal Kimmel discusses how in today's society men are expected to act and behave by rules. Kimmel spends time discussing the list of rules and values known as the "guy code" summarized by Robert Brannon, a social psychologist of the 1970s, he explains that this list must be fallowed in order to be seen as a man by society. Kimmel also mentions the "Gender Police," men and women who are always watching judging and waiting for a guy to mess up in being a man just so they can strip him of his of masculinity. The guy code may be intended to make a boy into a strong, emotionless and dependable man, bottling up emotions and trying to be seen as a man by other men and women can be tiresome. Kimmel discusses that all this pressure of trying to be a man can lead to depression, suicidal behavior, and various other forms of emotional disturbed orders.
- Meek,Will. "Male Gender Role." Psychology of Men. Web. Sat. 17 Nov. 2012
This website was created by Will Meek, a licenced psychologist currently head director of Counseling Services at Washington State University, Vancouver. Meek devoted this website to the study of men and masculinity, Meek says to understand masculinity you have to know what gender is, gender is defined as a set of characteristics or traits that are associated with a certain biological sex,male or female. Meek describes the male gender role as a set of attitudes and behaviors similar to the guy code. Researchers have described the rules of masculinity to be attitudes for a man to hold himself to, ways to look, ways to act and present oneself. The researchers argue that the rules are biological from birth and hard wired into a boys DNA, while others disagree and say that the rules are taught from a boy's surroundings and parents. Meek has come to the conclusion from his research that is a balance between Biological factors and and a boys surroundings.
-Lapp, Joan. "Boys to Men." Boys to Men Conference. Children Now: 1999. Web
Boys to Men talks about the media's role in identity formation among young boys. The media can broaden the images and messages that define masculinity in certain characters, reinforcing society's definition of masculinity as successful, violent and powerful. The media has summarized men as masculine icons; The Jock, The Strong Quiet Type, The Big Shot and as The Action Hero, all Strong manly men that boys want to be. At a young age boys are constantly surrounded by media showing them images of what men should be like.Interviews with boys between the ages of 8-12 talk about how they never see images of "affectionate" men or it was rare to see a male character play a sensitive part. Being surrounded by images of manly men that display emotional separations or violence, young boys believe that is how a real man should be.
Harper, 2008. Print.
Micheal Kimmel discusses how in today's society men are expected to act and behave by rules. Kimmel spends time discussing the list of rules and values known as the "guy code" summarized by Robert Brannon, a social psychologist of the 1970s, he explains that this list must be fallowed in order to be seen as a man by society. Kimmel also mentions the "Gender Police," men and women who are always watching judging and waiting for a guy to mess up in being a man just so they can strip him of his of masculinity. The guy code may be intended to make a boy into a strong, emotionless and dependable man, bottling up emotions and trying to be seen as a man by other men and women can be tiresome. Kimmel discusses that all this pressure of trying to be a man can lead to depression, suicidal behavior, and various other forms of emotional disturbed orders.
- Meek,Will. "Male Gender Role." Psychology of Men. Web. Sat. 17 Nov. 2012
This website was created by Will Meek, a licenced psychologist currently head director of Counseling Services at Washington State University, Vancouver. Meek devoted this website to the study of men and masculinity, Meek says to understand masculinity you have to know what gender is, gender is defined as a set of characteristics or traits that are associated with a certain biological sex,male or female. Meek describes the male gender role as a set of attitudes and behaviors similar to the guy code. Researchers have described the rules of masculinity to be attitudes for a man to hold himself to, ways to look, ways to act and present oneself. The researchers argue that the rules are biological from birth and hard wired into a boys DNA, while others disagree and say that the rules are taught from a boy's surroundings and parents. Meek has come to the conclusion from his research that is a balance between Biological factors and and a boys surroundings.
-Lapp, Joan. "Boys to Men." Boys to Men Conference. Children Now: 1999. Web
Boys to Men talks about the media's role in identity formation among young boys. The media can broaden the images and messages that define masculinity in certain characters, reinforcing society's definition of masculinity as successful, violent and powerful. The media has summarized men as masculine icons; The Jock, The Strong Quiet Type, The Big Shot and as The Action Hero, all Strong manly men that boys want to be. At a young age boys are constantly surrounded by media showing them images of what men should be like.Interviews with boys between the ages of 8-12 talk about how they never see images of "affectionate" men or it was rare to see a male character play a sensitive part. Being surrounded by images of manly men that display emotional separations or violence, young boys believe that is how a real man should be.
Monday, November 12, 2012
Proposal #2
Title: Braking the guy code
Author: I am a 19 year old boy, i grew up on a horse ranch working everyday with my father. Ever sense i could remember i was waking up early to help my dad around the ranch, may it be hanging hot-wire, digging post wholes, fixing fences, building chicken coups or just mowing the lawns. Growing up my father taught me what it takes to be a man, he never said "this is how a man does things." but everyday i learned from watching or doing, just like my father did from his father. I learned the rules of being a man from him and i was expected to fallow these rules. I never noticed until recently but i never did the same chores my sister, my sister helped my mother around the house cleaning or doing laundry. i grew up doing "mans work".
Date: Times are changing, from a time when being a man meant you had to fallow a strict list of rules, to now when its okay to not fallow the list of rules and show emotion.
Topic: Micheal Kimmel's "Bros Before Hos: The Guy Code" and its effects
Exigence: In Micheal Kimmel's "Bros Before Hos: The Guy Code" Kimmel explains the rules in being a man, how boys are taught these rules, the effects if one doesn't follow the rules he will be ridiculed and be striped of the tittle of MAN and then Kimmel discusses the psychological development and effects of the Guy Code. I agree with everything Kimmel says, i agree with the rules of the guy code i agree with what happens if a bot doesn't fallow those rules and the long term psychological development.
Intended Audience: college students and interested readers about the effects of the Guy code rules.
Purpose: To inform skeptical people of the effects that the strict rules the guy code are do effect every boy.
Ethos: I'm a 19 year old male, my father taught me what it means to be a man. I grew up trying to fallow the rules behind being a man, I personally know what happens if you don't fallow the rules set by the guy code.
Pathos: I have countless stories as a kid watching my father work and thinking to my self "when i grow up i want to be just like may dad", being just like my father would make me a real man. But out of all of these memories one is stuck in my mind, I was 13 and helping my dad put up wire horse fence. I would try my best to pull the fence tight against the posts, while my dad would nail it down. For my dad it only took him one swing with the hammer to hide the nail in the post, so long story short, my grip on the fence slipped causing my dad's hand holding the nail to move at the last moment in which his hand with the hammer smashed his fingers. I was terrified, expecting the wrath of god to rain down on my at that moment, but with his fingers turning black and purple right in front of my eyes all he did was gab another nail and ask me "do you think you can hold the fence this time?", he showed no emotion towards the pain or me for messing up. In my mind he was the toughest, strongest and more of a man i have ever seen or met at the time. I have seen my father break the guy code very few times and that makes me think he is even more of a man for doing that.
Author: I am a 19 year old boy, i grew up on a horse ranch working everyday with my father. Ever sense i could remember i was waking up early to help my dad around the ranch, may it be hanging hot-wire, digging post wholes, fixing fences, building chicken coups or just mowing the lawns. Growing up my father taught me what it takes to be a man, he never said "this is how a man does things." but everyday i learned from watching or doing, just like my father did from his father. I learned the rules of being a man from him and i was expected to fallow these rules. I never noticed until recently but i never did the same chores my sister, my sister helped my mother around the house cleaning or doing laundry. i grew up doing "mans work".
Date: Times are changing, from a time when being a man meant you had to fallow a strict list of rules, to now when its okay to not fallow the list of rules and show emotion.
Topic: Micheal Kimmel's "Bros Before Hos: The Guy Code" and its effects
Exigence: In Micheal Kimmel's "Bros Before Hos: The Guy Code" Kimmel explains the rules in being a man, how boys are taught these rules, the effects if one doesn't follow the rules he will be ridiculed and be striped of the tittle of MAN and then Kimmel discusses the psychological development and effects of the Guy Code. I agree with everything Kimmel says, i agree with the rules of the guy code i agree with what happens if a bot doesn't fallow those rules and the long term psychological development.
Intended Audience: college students and interested readers about the effects of the Guy code rules.
Purpose: To inform skeptical people of the effects that the strict rules the guy code are do effect every boy.
Ethos: I'm a 19 year old male, my father taught me what it means to be a man. I grew up trying to fallow the rules behind being a man, I personally know what happens if you don't fallow the rules set by the guy code.
Pathos: I have countless stories as a kid watching my father work and thinking to my self "when i grow up i want to be just like may dad", being just like my father would make me a real man. But out of all of these memories one is stuck in my mind, I was 13 and helping my dad put up wire horse fence. I would try my best to pull the fence tight against the posts, while my dad would nail it down. For my dad it only took him one swing with the hammer to hide the nail in the post, so long story short, my grip on the fence slipped causing my dad's hand holding the nail to move at the last moment in which his hand with the hammer smashed his fingers. I was terrified, expecting the wrath of god to rain down on my at that moment, but with his fingers turning black and purple right in front of my eyes all he did was gab another nail and ask me "do you think you can hold the fence this time?", he showed no emotion towards the pain or me for messing up. In my mind he was the toughest, strongest and more of a man i have ever seen or met at the time. I have seen my father break the guy code very few times and that makes me think he is even more of a man for doing that.
Sunday, November 4, 2012
RA# 3
Rhetorical Analysis # 3
Title: "Bros Before Hos":The Guy Code
Author: Michael Kimmel
Date: 2008
Topic: Author Michael Kimmel talks about the strict code that young boys have to live by, a code for masculinity, its a day by day check list on how to be a true man in the eyes of other men. Kimmel investigates the values, rites and expectations young boys have to live up to in today's society.
Analysis of Argument
Exigence: Kimmel explains that the "Guy Code" is a collection of rules, traits and values that make a boy seen as a man in today's society. The rules all add up onto a list that is used by almost all men in society to judge a man.
Intended Audience: Kimmel writes to inform the readers, may it be college students or everyday people reading the article in a paper or journal. The intended audience know less about the topic because of the facts and detail kimmel goes into explaining his points.
Purpose: I believe the purpose of this article is to engage the audience and to inform them about the strict rules society pushes on young boys.
Claims: "This is "The Guy Code," the collection of attitudes, values, and traits that together composes what it means to be a man(609)."
Main Evidence: To support his claim Kimmel uses information from college campuses and high schools asking young men what they think it means to be a man and the answers are, "Don't cry... never show your feelings, never ask for directions, never give up, never give in, be strong, be aggressive, show no fear, show no mercy, get rich, get even...(609)." Kimmel quotes social psychologist Robert Brannon for his summarizing of the four basic rules of masculinity, "No sissy stuff, Be a big wheel, be a sturdy oak, Give'em hell(610)." The four rules almost match exactly with the results Kimmel got from the colleges and high schools. KImmel then talks about how young boys learn these traits and how they are known by every male, "Guys hear the voices of the men in their lives-fathers, coaches, brothers, grandfathers, uncles, priests-to inform their ideas of masculinity(611)." Its the figures we all grew up with that we learn how to be a man from. Interviews from students in a Sociology of Masculinity class bring up the topic that " Other guys constantly watch how well we preform. Our peers are a kind of "gender police," (612)." The consent effort to walk, talk, eat, and every mannerism is to be seen as a true man.
Rhetorical Analysis:
Writer's Strategy 1: Description
Writer's Strategy 2: Exemplification
Writer's Strategy 3: Cause and Effect
Reader's Effect 1: Kimmel explains the rules of the guy code, he explains what the rules do to a young boy and how it effects how the boy is seen in society. The facts and details that Kimmel use are all true, me being a boy can really relate to the guy code.
Reader's Effect 2: Kimmel interviews students around the same age as me and the answer they give are the same i would of given. Every case or example used in this article the reader can relate to.
Reader's Effect 3: Kimmel explains how the guy code is influenced by fathers, grandfathers, coaches, and masculine figures in a young boys life, the figures form ideals of what it is to be a man. The effects of the guy code can cause a loss in emotions and separation disorders.
My Response:
I found "Bros Before Hos" to be a shockingly true article, everything Kimmel used i can relate to. I grew up with my father, the classic tough emotionless man teaching me how to be strong and self reliable, but i was never pushed to be a tough unemotional man. Just after years of looking up to my father as a hero i have tuned into him. When Kimmel talks about the "Gender Police" and how every man feels like they are being watched, and the moment they step over the line that defines malignity and femininity they will be striped of their tittle of being man is correct. Every man wants to be seen as tough, strong and dependable, but litter in life i hope the guy code isn't a clear defined line of rules.
Title: "Bros Before Hos":The Guy Code
Author: Michael Kimmel
Date: 2008
Topic: Author Michael Kimmel talks about the strict code that young boys have to live by, a code for masculinity, its a day by day check list on how to be a true man in the eyes of other men. Kimmel investigates the values, rites and expectations young boys have to live up to in today's society.
Analysis of Argument
Exigence: Kimmel explains that the "Guy Code" is a collection of rules, traits and values that make a boy seen as a man in today's society. The rules all add up onto a list that is used by almost all men in society to judge a man.
Intended Audience: Kimmel writes to inform the readers, may it be college students or everyday people reading the article in a paper or journal. The intended audience know less about the topic because of the facts and detail kimmel goes into explaining his points.
Purpose: I believe the purpose of this article is to engage the audience and to inform them about the strict rules society pushes on young boys.
Claims: "This is "The Guy Code," the collection of attitudes, values, and traits that together composes what it means to be a man(609)."
Main Evidence: To support his claim Kimmel uses information from college campuses and high schools asking young men what they think it means to be a man and the answers are, "Don't cry... never show your feelings, never ask for directions, never give up, never give in, be strong, be aggressive, show no fear, show no mercy, get rich, get even...(609)." Kimmel quotes social psychologist Robert Brannon for his summarizing of the four basic rules of masculinity, "No sissy stuff, Be a big wheel, be a sturdy oak, Give'em hell(610)." The four rules almost match exactly with the results Kimmel got from the colleges and high schools. KImmel then talks about how young boys learn these traits and how they are known by every male, "Guys hear the voices of the men in their lives-fathers, coaches, brothers, grandfathers, uncles, priests-to inform their ideas of masculinity(611)." Its the figures we all grew up with that we learn how to be a man from. Interviews from students in a Sociology of Masculinity class bring up the topic that " Other guys constantly watch how well we preform. Our peers are a kind of "gender police," (612)." The consent effort to walk, talk, eat, and every mannerism is to be seen as a true man.
Rhetorical Analysis:
Writer's Strategy 1: Description
Writer's Strategy 2: Exemplification
Writer's Strategy 3: Cause and Effect
Reader's Effect 1: Kimmel explains the rules of the guy code, he explains what the rules do to a young boy and how it effects how the boy is seen in society. The facts and details that Kimmel use are all true, me being a boy can really relate to the guy code.
Reader's Effect 2: Kimmel interviews students around the same age as me and the answer they give are the same i would of given. Every case or example used in this article the reader can relate to.
Reader's Effect 3: Kimmel explains how the guy code is influenced by fathers, grandfathers, coaches, and masculine figures in a young boys life, the figures form ideals of what it is to be a man. The effects of the guy code can cause a loss in emotions and separation disorders.
My Response:
I found "Bros Before Hos" to be a shockingly true article, everything Kimmel used i can relate to. I grew up with my father, the classic tough emotionless man teaching me how to be strong and self reliable, but i was never pushed to be a tough unemotional man. Just after years of looking up to my father as a hero i have tuned into him. When Kimmel talks about the "Gender Police" and how every man feels like they are being watched, and the moment they step over the line that defines malignity and femininity they will be striped of their tittle of being man is correct. Every man wants to be seen as tough, strong and dependable, but litter in life i hope the guy code isn't a clear defined line of rules.
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